I have some standard deposit and screening procedures in place to ensure both my safety and the respect of my time.

For screening, I’ll ask for TWO of the following: a picture of a government ID, a link to a LinkedIn or identifiable social media/internet profile, or a recent personal reference from another companion or provider. If you cannot provide two of these things, feel free to still reach out and we might be able to work something out.

Additionally, for local dates, I ask for a deposit of 20% of the overall gift amount to my CashApp, 250 USD via Amazon gift card sent to my email (daphnexxoxx@gmail.com) or 20% + 15 USD to my Venmo in order to reserve time on my calendar. This gesture indicates that you respect my wishes, time and boundaries and is non-negotiable.

If you cancel your local date with at least 48-hours notice, the deposit will be returned to you no questions asked. Cancellations on shorter notice will forfeit the deposit unless another reasonable arrangement can be worked out.

For FMTY, I ask for a 50% deposit well before our time together.

Want to know the kinds of messages that will get a positive response 100% of the time? These are just examples that you can customize based on you, your circumstances, and you’re desires for our time, but if you need a little inspiration about where to start…

Email:

Hello Daphne!

My name is [your name here] and I’m reaching out to see your availability for a date night on [give a date or date range]. Your profile and website really stood out to me because [show me here that you’ve read my site and you’re interested in me for a reason] and I’d love the chance to get to know you better!

About me, I’m a 53 year old engineer visiting DC for business. I love 70’s rock music and my two cats, Simon and Garfunkel. Here’s a link to my professional website/profile: [screening information up front is very sexy]

I’m staying at the [location] hotel and I was thinking we could go to dinner at [suggest a restaurant? or I can choose for us?] before retiring for some time alone together. Would you be interested in spending the evening with me?

All the best,

[your name here!]

Text Message:

Hello Daphne! My name is [your name here] and I’m a 53 year old engineer in the Baltimore area. I was hoping to steal an afternoon with you, ideally sometime next week, if you’d be interested?

Here is my professional profile: [wow, screening information up front just gets me]

I can also provide a reference from another companion, if you’d like!

Right now, the best way to reach me is via email or via text. Please reach out with your full name, your general location (city), a bit about yourself (my favorite part!), and some specifics for when you’d be interested in connecting.

I live in Baltimore and frequently travel to D.C. for both work and recreational purposes, so I am readily available in the broader Baltimore/DMV area. If traveling for more than an hour for our meeting, I will request a minimum 2 hour appointment.

Outside of special circumstances, I do not have an incall location, so I will ask you to fund a hotel room for our first few meetings. I am very happy to help you troubleshoot these logistics, of course ☺️

Visits at your home or another private location are only available for long-standing friends and patrons with whom I’ve built a strong rapport.

My schedule is generally quite flexible so I am luckily available to schedule something most days of the week. I am most partial to meetings between 10am and 10pm. I will also not be available for late-night liaisons (post 10pm) less than two hours long.

This does not mean that I am always available! I spend a lot of my time on writing, passion projects, gardening, and with a busy personal schedule, so I am very rarely available for same-day appointments. If I am available for a same day appointment, I will ask for an additional gift of 100 USD/hour of our time together.

First, when in doubt, please ask! I am a very friendly person and always exceptionally happy to talk any thoughts, questions, or concerns that you might have before our meeting. If you have any particular desires, fantasies, boundaries, or wishes for our time together, let’s fantasize together ahead of time 😉

Remember, this is a date ♥️ Show up groomed to your comfort and ready for real connection and relaxation. While gifts are a lovely way to show your admiration, they are not required. For longer dates together, small refreshments (think fruit, cheese, nuts, crackers, wine) are a kind gesture.

Also, remember that there are a number of lovely guides out there that can help you feel more comfortable before our time together. Some of my favorites here and here.

While I am happy to hear about what you find attractive and titillating, I think it’s best that I reserve some element of surprise while exercising my own sense of style and expression. After a deposit has been received, we can discuss details of what we’d like our evening to be, what feelings we’re trying to engender, and what we’d like to explore. Outfit details will fall into place.

If providing an envelope in-person, please place it in a readily visible place like the nightstand or counter, in a plain, unsealed envelope. Please do not hand it to me.